Since freedom lies in loving, but what you want is to be loved, then it is clear that you are going against the flow of life and liberation. The need for exclusive love translates into emotional neediness, dependence, attachment, control, possessiveness, jealousy… All of this unfolds from the basic illusion that you need to receive love from the outside. You may not know how to go beyond this neediness, but it is already a great victory if you can understand the mechanics of the psyche and consciously make this prayer: ‘May I consider the other instead of wanting to be considered.’ As you mature, and thereby illuminate your intelligence, it is natural that you will want to love rather than be loved. Sri Prem Baba